My More Perfect Place - Lisa Hirsch & Ann #2
Ann worries that overanalyzing and being indecisive caused her to lose a good opportunity. She feels that by not taking action, she missed out on renting a place that was no longer available.
Lisa coaches her on why that happened: “Maybe you're setting yourself up to not be disappointed in a way if it doesn't work out. What do you think about that?” and then asks her to think about a new possibility.
Key Takeaway
Learn how to reframe blame. When your thoughts spiral into worry and self-deprecation — all the shoulda, coulda, wouldas — say instead, “This opens space for maybe something even better.”
Exercise & Reflection
The next time you’re stuck in a worried, anxious loop, try writing down those automatic thoughts. Self-critical and judgmental thoughts arise often without us even knowing. When you write them down, you gain a new awareness of how to take better control and reframe blame.